A Emotional Message from A Mother to Other Mothers on Losing Her Young Son due to Covid-19

An Emotional Message from A Mother to Other Mothers on Losing Her Young Son due to Covid-19

It’s no doubt that Mothers play a critical role in the life of their sons. There is a deep connection between a mother and son that starts from the time a woman gives birth to her son. Although fathers also play an important role in the life of their sons, the bond between mother and son is special. A mother is the first person who truly understands and knows everything about her son since he has been inside her for nine months. A mother is her son’s best friend, his protector and hope, a source of encouragement, and most of all, a mother is an adviser to her son.

Here are a few quotes praising the bond between Mother and Son- “There has never been, nor will there ever be, anything quite so special as the love between the mother and a son.”; “Sons are the anchors of a mother’s life.”; “Mother is her son’s first god. She must teach him the most important lesson of all – how to love.”; “Even more than the time when she gave birth, a mother feels her greatest joy when she hears others refer to her son as a wise, learned one.”; “There has never been, nor will there ever be, anything quite so special as the love between the mother and a son”; “There is an endearing tenderness in the love of a mother to a son that transcends all other affections of the heart”- these are some thought-provoking quotes, on a close relationship between a Mother and Son.

21-year-old Salman Tahir, a 4th-year MBBS student, died due to Covid-19

We should know that- For a mother, the project of raising a boy is the most fulfilling project she can hope for. She can watch him, as a child, play the games she was not allowed to play; she can invest in him her ideas, aspirations, ambitions, and values — or whatever she has left of them; she can watch her son, who came from her flesh and whose life was sustained by her work and devotion, embody her in the world. So while the project of raising a boy is fraught with ambivalence and leads inevitably to bitterness, it is the only project that allows a woman to be — to be through her son, to live through her son. And when a mother loses her son at a very young age, it is devastating, filled with sadness and sorrow.

Below is an emotional message of a mother which has gone viral for the past few days on social media. One of the famous gynaecologists in Pakistan, Dr Shabnam Tahir, sends a great message to everyone in the world regarding the death of her son Salman Tahir, a fourth-year MBBS student, due to Covid-19. Back to that mother’s word:

“God bless everyone. My son is no more with us. Today I have decided to come here and talk to you so that you will not lose your children. I am not only a mother but also a doctor. My son was not sick or had low immunity. From the time he was just 21 years old, he was healthy, learning and interacting with everyone. He was a student who wanted to give his services to everyone as a learned doctor. But all that changed during those 72 hours. It can be said that he did not go out during the lockdown. He was out in his own vehicle for two minutes and got out for 5 minutes”.

“At noon, he ate very little. When I said no pain, I looked at the temperature … 99 degrees fever. I felt scared. Given the current situation, I isolated him at home. Within 24 hours it was up to 101 degrees. My husband, who is also a paediatrician, suspected Meningitis when he was told that his neck had stiffness that morning. But there were no signs of vomiting. Immediately take his blood sample and send inquire. Bacterial meningitis doctor says antibiotics Within half an hour, he was taken to the hospital’s isolation room. Lumbar puncture and test results after viral meningitis”.

When asked if we should do a COVID test, the doctor said it does not appear to be necessary. I was with him during the treatment. He had no colds, sore throats, coughs, stomach pains or ear pains. He then underwent a CT scan when he saw a slight swelling around one of his eyes and showed neurosurgeon. Normal was. He said it could be due to Meningitis. But he said he would take a chest X-ray. I saw a small patch on X-ray. COVID testing was done immediately. And the result was positive”.

“All I can see is that suddenly his condition got worse. He also had an oxygen level drop along with a heart rate and respiratory rate. Pneumonia is the most severe, and it takes about 8-12 hours to get out of it despite so much external support. So he said goodbye to everyone. My husband’s COVID test result has just come and gone. He is in isolation. We haven’t even been able to bounce off our gold and break one another. I am in isolation. Salman’s post-mortem was performed according to the COVID protocol. As my test came back negative, I will sit in isolation for a few days and then I will continue with my work”.”

My husband has tested positive for COVID. He is in isolation. We could not even weep and mourn together for our son until now! I am in isolation. Salman’s funeral was done as per the protocol. I will continue to be in isolation for some more time and will resume duty thereafter. But I like to tell each of you certain things. Kindly follow them:

1) Do not step outside because there are no risk factors. Even if you are not, the risk of becoming a carrier is huge. The biggest probability I got when tracing my son’s contact was that both of us were working as carriers. So the son sitting at home may have been affected.

2) You should not walk outside or visit the hospital or visit the patient without the necessity.

3) I still see patients treating infertility. Tell them you haven’t forgiven for ten years. Wait another six months. Now for that.

4) Comply with government regulations. It is wrong to say that they are spreading unnecessary fear. Despite being a doctor and being treated in an all-encompassing hospital, I had to look for help when I could not see my eyes in front of my eyes.

5) To the ones who are telling that doctors are looting money, I will give you all my treasures and money. Would you give me my son instead?

6) I warn everyone who thinks the virus will not affect them that don’t put your loved one’s in trouble and get infected.

“I wish no Mothers lose their children”- Dr Shabnam Tahir

Amid COVID 19 period lets follow the instructions of the government and follow the personal cleanliness and social distance and another Salman Tahir will not be among us. Keep yourself safe from getting infected by the corona.

“MAY SALMAN TAHIR’S SOUL REST IN PEACE!”- Team Mangalorean