1. Beautiful Reception
After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with : a good greeting.
Meet him with a cheerful face.
Beautify and perfume yourself.
Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested.
Receive him with loving and yearning sentences.
Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.
2. Beautify and Soften the Voice
For your husband only, it shouldn’t be used in front of other men.
3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification
Taking good care of your body and fitness.
Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.
Bath regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells.
Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape.
Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tatoo.
Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes.
Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time.
4. Intercourse
Hasten for intercourse when your husband feels compulsion for it.
Keep your body clean and smelling good as possible including cleaning yourself of released fluids during intercourse.
Exchange loving phrases with your husband.
Leave your husband to fully satisfy his desire.
Choose suitable times and good occasions for exciting your husband, and encouraging him to do intercourse,
e.g. after returning from a travel, weekends, etc.
5. Satisfaction in supporting your husband
You shouldn’t be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job.
You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people for all that was given to you.
You should remember that real wealth lays in good deeds
In particular in times of calamities in your husband’s body or business, e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.
6. Indifference to Worldly Things
You should not consider this world as your hope and interest.
You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.
Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good, but it means that one should look forward to the hereafter and utilize whatever GOD gave them to achieve paradise.
Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.
7.Pleasing Him If He Is Angry
First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger.
But if it happens that you can’t, then try to appease him as follows:
If you mistaken, then apologize.
If he mistaken then:
Keep still instead of arguing or
Yield you right or
Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.
If he was angry because of external reasons then:
Keeping silent untill his anger goes
Find execuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, some one insulted him
Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened, e.g. :
1) You should tell me what happened ?
2) I must know what made you so angry.
3) You are hidding something, and I have the right to know
8.Guardianship While He is Absent
Protecting yourself from any prohibited relations.
Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things that the husbands don’t like other people to know.
Take care of the house and children.
Takecare of his money and properties.
Do not go out of your house without his permission and, inform him at least.
Refuse people whom he does not like to come over.
Do not allow any other men to be alone with you in any place.
Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence.
9. Showing Respect for his Family and Friends
You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.
You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.
You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife.
Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.
Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home.
Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc..
10. Admirable Jealousy
Jealousy is a sign for wife’s love for her husband, e.g. not insulating or backbiting others, disrespecting them, etc..
You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.
11.Patience and Emotional Support
Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.
When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your hsubandh, your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases, accidents, death, etc.
When facing hardships in times (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested, etc.), be patient and encourage him.
When he mistreats you, counteract his illtreatment by good treatment.
12. Support in Obedience
Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.
Encourage him to pray at night.
Listen and reciting the holybooks individually and with your husband.
Support your husband’s activities by encouraging him, offering wise opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
Yielding some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Hard times.
13.Good Housekeeping
Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged.
Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom.
Perfect of food and prepare healthy foods.
Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing.
Learn how to raise children properly and with fear of GOD.
14.Preservation of Finances and the Family
Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he agrees on this.
Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.
Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc.
[Disclaimer: All words in this Articles are not mine,some i found on internet and some from Friends.]
Author: Rudolph D`Souza
